Answer:
Adjusting their expectations to children's capacities
Step-by-step explanation:
Self-defeating reactions in children appear as direct result os low self-esteem.
Self-defeating means not believing that they are good enough as they are, doubting their abilities to perform a task, thinking negative thoughts about themselves.
To avoid all of this above, adults should always adjust their expectations to children's capacities and not they should not expect too much of them. They should praise them but be fair at the same time, praising them when they see their effort and not only when they are presented with their achievements. Many adults forget that children are children and they expect them to behave as adults which they are not.