When you write a letter to your child, it can be magical. It communicates love, pride, and commitment beyond the power of everyday spoken words. It's a fun idea to make writing letters to your kids an annual event, either on their birthdays or around the holidays. To your child, it will be more than just another family tradition.
Each letter is a tangible expression of your love and pride, combined with the hopes and dreams you have for their future. They may even pick one out of a keepsake box in 20 years and be reminded of just how special they are to you.
Your letter can offer encouragement through eight simple words that every child should hear.
Of course, you want to tell your child how you feel, and "love" is probably the most important word you can use. Even if "I love you" is something you say every day, the message is conveyed differently when the words are shared in writing.
For example, you might say:
"It's hard for me to describe much I love you!"
"Being your parent has been one of the greatest gifts in my life."
"There's nothing that could ever change how I feel about you." Parents "notice" a lot about their children as they grow, but how often do you actually reflect on it and tell them about it? Share what you've noticed recently about their behavior or maturity in your letter. How has she grown? What positive characteristics do you see emerging?
For example, you might point out:
The generosity your son has for his siblings
The kindness your daughter shows her friends
The maturity you've witnessed in how your child handles conflicts. Throughout every stage of their development, there are things you "enjoy" doing with your child. In your letter, describe something special you do together right now. Knowing that you love to do something they enjoy will mean a lot. It will also help put the letter into context when they read it again in the years to come.
Think about the simple things that bring a smile to your face and theirs:
Playing games
Cooking together
Reading together. Be specific when you describe what makes you "proud." This is something we all long to hear, and the words will nourish children when they re-read the letter years from now.
For example, you might express pride in your child's:
Interpersonal relationships
Academic progress or work ethic
Athletic abilities or various talents.