1 goes with the third one.
2 goes with the 1st one.
3 goes with the second one.
Judge people by how they are not how they appear matches the third one because it's basically the simple version of the idea, if you just read it, but if you compare the others you would get a bit confused.
2 matches the 1st by comparing the comfort for having a normal face to not stand out.
3 matches the second one because if you compare "long time" with "the things we do are like monuments" due to monuments being a historic text and the people mixes with memories because people own memories.
Sorry it took so long I'm kind of working on something while typing.