I need a 5 paragraph persuasive essay on why we need conversation. The paper is a speech that has to last 10 minutes long. These are my notes.:
Intro: ~(150words)
First Point: (~300words) (What)
What is a conversation?
Definition (Verbal exchange of sentiments, observations, opinions, or ideas ) + (Maybe the difference between talking and having a conversation.) + Value
What does it do? Without it what happens?
This leads to my second point.
Second Point: (~300 words) (Why)
A study conducted in 2014 by psychologist Yalda T. Uhls examined children participating in an outdoor camp that was device-free. After five days, the campers were able to read facial emotions, as well as correctly identify the emotions of actors in a videotaped scene better than the control group. This means that they had developed a greater sense of empathy.
Increased Empathy ( psychologist Yalda T. Uhls was the lead author on a 2014 study of children at an outdoor camp with no devices. After five days without phones or tablets, these campers were able to read facial emotions and correctly identify the emotions of actors in videotaped scenes significantly better than a control group.
What fostered these new empathic responses? They talked to one another. In conversation, things go best if you pay close attention and learn how to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. This is easier to do without your phone in hand. Conversation is the most human and humanizing thing that we do.
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Relation/Relationship
Conversation is the lifeblood of relationships^^
Conversation is necessary for communication^^
Cultural Deficit Need
“For years, research has indicated that substantive, intimate conversations strengthen social bonds between people and, in turn, make them happier. Yet, other research has observed that less than half of conversations are meaningful exchanges.”^^**^
Third Point: (~300words) (How+How Now)
Now that we’ve looked at what conversation is, and why we need it, I want to cover some ways of how and how not to have conversations (start conversations, etc.) In 2017, a study was done by K Haung, a candidate at Harvard, and her colleagues, which showed that people who ask more questions are liked more by their conversation partners in both online and in-person settings.
How?:
“In the current research, we isolate the role of an understudied conversational behavior: question-asking. Across three studies of live dyadic conversations, we identify a robust and consistent relationship between question-asking and liking: people who ask more questions are better liked by their conversation partners. When people are instructed to ask more questions, they are perceived as higher in responsiveness, an interpersonal construct that captures listening, understanding, validation, and care. We measure responsiveness with an attitudinal measure from previous research as well as a novel behavioral measure: the number of follow-up questions one asks. In both cases, responsiveness explains the effect of question-asking on liking."*
Receptivity
Trust
Interest
Response (“Responsiveness is important for all relationships,” says K Haung, Ph.D. Candidate at Harvard Business School. “Responsiveness involves understanding, validation, and care…previous research shows that responsiveness is incredibly important for maintaining successful long-term relationships…..If you ask a question, listen to the answer, and ask a follow-up question, your conversation partner will feel validated and engaged, which significantly increases liking)**
Listening (Difference between listening and hearing…“Listening can build better relationships with others, while hearing cannot.”***)
How Not?:
Ranting (Hogging Conversation)
Self Focus (“People spend most of their time during conversations talking about their own viewpoints and tend to self-promote when meeting people for the first time.” said Alison Wood Brooks, assistant professor at Harvard + and her colleagues.****)
Hearing Only
Inattentive (Unwilling to Consider)
Superficial.
Small-Talk (“Their findings appeared to suggest not only the substantive conversations make us happier, but also that indulging in too much small talk could damage our well-being.”^*
In-person vs Online/Texting (Benefits + Downsides)
Benefits of In-Person Conversations: Able to pick up nonverbal cues and body language.
Shows more value? (When you make the effort to actually see the other person.*****)
Benefits of Online/Text Conversations:
Outro: (~150words)