Melanie should be herself and try to change her perspective. She should instead of caring about other peoples opinions, which aren't always true, love herself for who she is. If she doesn't like something about herself, she can simply just change it to something she likes. Not what other people like. The important thing for her to do is not be a people pleaser or dependent on other peoples happiness. Instead, she should do her own thing and not care about what other people think or say about her.