Fear – Victims fear the physical harm that might come if they attempt to leave.Love – Victims may truly have deep feelings for the abusive partner.Promises – Promises that this abuse will never happen again.Abuse = Love – Confusion between being loved and being controlled by their partner.Guilt – Being made to think that the abuse is their fault, that they have the problem.Not Being Believed – A strong fear that nobody will believe them if they speak out against the abuse.Thinking They Can Change Them – The belief that over time the victim can change the abusive partner.Low Self-Esteem – After being in an abusive relationship there is a feeling that they can do no better than their current relationship.Being Alone – To end the relationship could mean a loss of mutual friends, relatives and others associated with the relationship.Financial – Money, children and no place to go also hold victims in these relationships.