Q: HOW DO PEOPLE COMMONLY DIVERT THE PREASSURE FROM THEMSELVES?
A: that would be blaming someone else for the problem. and firmly telling them no. if people try to get to you, just say that you feel sorry for them. 'cause what they say about you they think that way about themselves. at least try to be friendly to them so that they're not always thinking bad things about themselves.
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