When I think of war, I think of ruined families, because that is what war brings. Where is war, men are often drafted, and so the wifes are always stressed out and worried about their husband at wars, and the husband is always worried about whether or not his wife is getting the food, shelter, protection etc, that his family needs. The spouse staying home would most likely have to get a job, especially because being in war doesn't pay well. When someone is at war, you don't know what is going to happen. Fears might include whether or not you're loved one with ever return, and if they do, will they have an injury where they will not be able to work, or provide very well. Will they return with severe damage mentally. People know this as PTSD, which often causes depression and confusion. Fears brought on by a loved one going to war might include whether or not maybe your family will be able to provide for everything they need. If not, is there anyone that can help pay financially, and if not where and how are they going to send money to their family.