Regardless of which action you choose, you should include "to both sides."
For example, you could add -9 to both sides, or you could subtract 9 from both sides (same result). Adding 3x to both sides results in
5 - 3x = 2x + 9
+ 3x = 3x
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5 = 5x + 9
We need to solve for x. The best way to do this is to subtract 9 from both sides, resulting in -4 = 5x, so that x = -4/5 (final answer).