Let the tens digit of the original number be represented by x. Let the ones digit be y.
The original number is then 10x + y, and the reversed number is 10y + x.
"Five times the sum of the digits is 13 less than the original number" becomes:

"Four times the sum of its digits is 21 less than the reversed number" becomes:

Work with the first equation until it is simpler:

Do the same thing with the second equation:

Now you have a system of two equations to solve.

To eliminate x, multiply the first equation by 3 and multiply the second equation by 5

Add the two equations.

Aha! The one digit of the original number is 8. To find y, put x = 8 into any equation containing both x and y.

Sweet! The tens digit of the original number is 9. The original number is 98 and the reversed number is 89.
Their difference is 9.