Donna, a family therapist, is explaining to her friend betty, a 40 year old african american female and vice president at a large bank, that betty is having difficulty finding a mate due to the marriage squeeze. in simple terms, what donna means is that: men are getting "cold feet" when it comes to marriage. marriage is losing it's popularity. there is an imbalance in the ratio of men who are eligible for marriage to women who are eligible for marriage. the disadvantages of marriage outweigh the advantages.