True. Once someone confesses a fault or secret weakness they often lose control over how they are viewed or perceived. Sometimes disclosure will often result in outright rejection, and even if it doesn't, It creates a negative impression in the.other party's mind, this of course, means that disclosure can lead to more and more dissatisfaction in a relationship. A p.edophile confesses to his wife that he did it; a man opens up to his wife about his HIV status; both of these can wreak any relationship in minutes. There are many reasons one would have to disclose especially if the other person is very important to you, or one's moral obligation to disclose. It will be equally (or even more) painful to hear the offenses/crime elsewhere.