I don't think my reality influences how I am viewed by others. It is the other way around, though.
If I ALLOW IT, how people see me will influence how I see myself. It depends on the person in a positive or negative way.
Everyone has their own reality; they have their own vision of how they see themselves and others. If someone is mad at me, then I don't take it personally as much as possible because I know they represent their reality, not mine, to me.