Answer: realize without idealization or realise, don't idealize
Step-by-step explanation:
When we are attracted to someone our eyes tend to be blinded in such that we start to engage in a process of idealization as we are deeply immersed into those feelings of attraction we choose to adopt certain perspective about the person which may cover their flaws because we have created this ideal or perfect person in our mind.
Max is actual coming out of that that he wants to see reality of what his girlfriend was by looking at all the flaws which may help him face reality of what wasn't going right between them.