1."the open door", the suitor, his parents, and the village representative approach the family of the girl he wishes to court and request a meeting.
2.the bride’s family holds a fiesta.
3.the bride and groom make their vows to each other in front of the elders, reaffirming their commitment to their union, the community, and the ways of their people, and rejecting the world of the ladinos
4.the wedding itself—the despedida—during which the bride, after a civil or Catholic Church marriage ceremony, receives her gifts and says goodbye to the community.