Awareness.
If you can manage a key component of Emotional Intelligence: Active Listening, you’ll start to learn more because people will trust you, you’ll get better with people and meet more, and you’ll start to see success in work and in life.
Combine your ability to actively listen (to hear and understand what people are saying and demonstrate it) with:
Charisma, grativas, animus
Trustworthyness, authenticity, compassion
Empathy, intelligence and understanding
And you’ll get all those things you asked about because you’ll start to realise it isn’t about you: it’s about everyone else.