to truly love someone, you need to have trust, respect and devotion. if you cannot trust someone with your secrets, it even trust that they will love you back, they do not deserve your love. they also need your respect and you need to respect them. respecting boundaries is a big deal. if you feel like someone puts you down or disrespects you, that is not true love. devotion is also important. if you want to love someone and have them love you back, you need to give them your everything and full attention.