The answer is: “When they did have something to say to us, they became familiar.”
“The Black Ball” by Ralph Ellison the narrator, John, is conscious that he is not treated like an equal, however, he still has hope in his life. He wants to transmit this to his son, that the identity is not dictated by the skin color. At the setting time of the history the black people did not have the same right that the white people, despite this, John keep fighting to achieve the American dream.