It is subjective and not objective stress that causes problems for people. Richard Lazarus is a theoretician who developed the Cognitive Appraisal Theory. In his theory, he considers that stress is the result of a personal assessment of a situation over which one does not have the resources to face and that endangers personal well-being. That is why stress is a subjective assessment, that is, a personal interpretation of what happened.
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